This research project is going to kill me, I swear. 

I love being a Feminist Studies major, but damn. This paper is bringing me down.

Anonymous asked:

It bothers me so much when other fans or whoever call delphine or cos a lesbian shes bi jfc its not hard do you know how easy it is to change that line felix said "I smelt lesbian in my bed tonight" "im bisexual and im not going to apologize for my love" jfc im done

alex-of-macedonia:

befferonie:

THAAAANK YOUUUU!!!!

Everyone and their fucking mothers has been erasing their bisexuality. Evelyne, Tatiana, the writers, the fans… It’s so fucking gross. Bisexual erasure isn’t a fucking joke and it sucks so fucking bad that such a good show is participating in the erasure bisexuals and bisexuality so enthusiastically.

Erasure hurts, friend. Erasure looks you in the eye and says; “You don’t exist. What would make you think people like you existed? You have nothing to be proud of. No one to look up to,” and that shit is damaging. Representation legitimizes existence… Representation tells kids who are struggling with their identities; “Look! There are other people like you! You are not alone,” and when we don’t have it… We believe we are alone. We believe there is something wrong with us because no one else in the whole world exists in the way we do. 

The obvious erasure on the show is painful, friend. It’s painful and exhausting. It just sucks that such a wonderful show is drenched in so much biphobia and monosexism. 

I’m sorry, but I have to respectfully disagree. I’m not seeing the blatant bierasure or biphobia within the show itself.

Delphine literally acknowledges that sexuality is a spectrum and she falls somewhere on that before she and Cosima have sex. And then afterward, she says, ‘I cry after sex with boys, too.’ Not past tense, not ‘I used to cry after sex with boys’ as if she is never going to be with a man again, but present/future tense, because she obviously is still attracted to men.

Cosima never actually says what her sexuality is. We only know she likes women because she makes the first move and then has a relationship with Delphine. Our only indication that she’s probably had prior experience with women is the exchange at the end of their big fight when Delphine said she’s never been with a woman before, and Cosima said, ‘Yeah, it showed.’ She has never stated though that she does not like men. When she never explicitly states that she likes women, why should her omission of any feelings toward men make it different?

In an interview with afterellen, Tatiana Maslany is quoted as saying, “John and Graeme had mentioned to me early on that Cosima was bisexual, and I could feel it in the writing even when it wasn’t explicit. I feel like she identifies as bisexual, and very much understands her sexuality as a spectrum from a scientific viewpoint. I think Cosima just loves people. I think she feels love for a lot of different kinds of people.”

I would however agree with you on the fanbase end of things, because the fandom does commonly refer to at least Cosima as a lesbian, and their relationship as a lesbian one, erasing the idea of one or both of them being bisexual. And Felix saying he smelled ‘lesbians’ in his bed and Cosima not correcting him does have its problematic areas, but it’s more on his end than hers, yet it’s very accurate to how a lot of gay men act around women or other men who have same-sex partners. White gay males are the ones who primarily erase the idea of bi/pansexuality (at least within in the lgbtq community), and this is reflected in this sentence. Cosima’s lack of correction can be treated as either her not caring enough to distinguish her sexuality, or her not seeing it as relevant in the moment because she’s more ticked off at everyone judging her choosing to stay with Delphine.

Yeah, and that’s what I’m really trying to get at. The entire show constantly hints at both of them being bisexual I mean shit Delphine literally says; “I’ve never considered bisexuality—for myself…” before she goes off on her little speech, which is a huge sign that she is considering the possibility of her being bisexual now after having met Cosima. And that’s the thing, she doesn’t say homosexuality, she specifically says bisexuality. There is a deliberateness in making clear that she is considering bisexuality. But the fandom is continuously erasing her identity as a bisexual woman. And it’s not just the fandom… Evelyne and some of the other cast have discussed how well “homosexuality” is being represented and how these “homosexual” women have a relationship that is so complex and interesting. So… Yeah. Problematic shit. It seems like everyone is mislabeling these characters as “gay”, “homosexual” or “lesbian” when they have been pretty much established to be bisexual. That’s monosexism. That’s bisexual erasure.

And you know what? The dialogue in the episode—Felix saying he smelled lesbians in his bed?—That didn’t have to be said. I don’t care what his characterization is. If the writers wanted to make sure her identity wasn’t going to be erased within the show itself (because obviously they can’t really control what the cast has said or how the fans label the characters) they would have written it in her dialogue. It could have been that easy. The simple correction could have taken a whole two seconds. But the fact is is that she was mislabeled. Again. Only this time on the show itself. Her identity was erased on the actual damn show. And yeah, some gay men can be pretty biphobic but let’s not forget that these characters are written. They are written with a specific intent and purpose. I don’t give a flying monkey if her lack of retort was because she didn’t care enough to distinguish her identity because obviously the writers cared enough to have Felix mislabel her in the first place.

But yeah friend, the show and writers seemed to have gone out of their way to establish that both Cosima and Delphine are bisexual… But after last nights episode I’m left a little unsettled. I don’t know how their identities will be handled in future episodes but I hope it’s dealt with a little more sensitivity. The show is amazing but the fact that my identity is being erased on the show itself is pretty damn grating to say the least.

argenterica:

leekie’s biphobic comment (“be careful playing for the other team”) is awful at so many levels (and i’m sure it was a comment on her sexuality as well as her work because the OB twitter bothered to tweet it)

first of all leekie is her employer, he should never comment on her sexuality

second of all leekie is her (probably abusive) former partner who coerced her into pursuing cosima, and now he’s making snide comments about it in the workplace ughghgughg everything there is uncomfortable

and third there’s the wording itself, “playing for the other team,” as if bisexuals can only be on one team at all, aka when delphine’s with a man she’s straight and when she’s with a woman she’s gay. it’s always one team or the other.

Anonymous asked:

It bothers me so much when other fans or whoever call delphine or cos a lesbian shes bi jfc its not hard do you know how easy it is to change that line felix said "I smelt lesbian in my bed tonight" "im bisexual and im not going to apologize for my love" jfc im done

THAAAANK YOUUUU!!!!

Everyone and their fucking mothers has been erasing their bisexuality. Evelyne, Tatiana, the writers, the fans… It’s so fucking gross. Bisexual erasure isn’t a fucking joke and it sucks so fucking bad that such a good show is participating in the erasure bisexuals and bisexuality so enthusiastically.

Erasure hurts, friend. Erasure looks you in the eye and says; “You don’t exist. What would make you think people like you existed? You have nothing to be proud of. No one to look up to,” and that shit is damaging. Representation legitimizes existence… Representation tells kids who are struggling with their identities; “Look! There are other people like you! You are not alone,” and when we don’t have it… We believe we are alone. We believe there is something wrong with us because no one else in the whole world exists in the way we do. 

The obvious erasure on the show is painful, friend. It’s painful and exhausting. It just sucks that such a wonderful show is drenched in so much biphobia and monosexism. 

agendertrender:

Please remember that there is no shame in being closeted. You do not owe it to anybody to tell them something that could affect your life negatively.